But though these findings may sound like a no-brainer, many people are still hesitant to be inquisitive.
For one, they might not think to ask questions, the researchers write, focusing instead on themselves. Additionally they may be afraid to come across as rude, intrusive or incompetent.
Still, the study notes, “The tendency to focus on the self when trying to impress others is misguided.” Citing numerous other reports, the authors write that “redirecting the topic of conversation to oneself, bragging, boasting or dominating the conversation, tend to decrease liking.”
Instead of trying to impress the other person, focus on simply learning more about them.
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